Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today :
Assigning a value to something is entirely natural. In the more common use of the term value, people use it to measure themselves against the progress of other people. He makes more money, her children are smarter, they drive a better car this is utterly inherently self-destructive. This kind of beliefs will build resentment, anger and self-loathing. Not only for the other person either but for yourself. All of this diminishes your own sense of self your personal valuation and your feeling of autonomy. Therefore, you should strive to become a better person. Even if it's just a 1% better each week than you were before if you do this continually for 71 weeks you'll be twice the person that you were before.
Don't let your children do anything that makes you dislike them :
At first glance, this rule might sound a little strange. Suppose a child is treated in one of two ineffective parenting styles either permissive or authoritarian permissive parents dote on their child even when the child has done something bad or wrong. On the other hand, authoritarian parents are at the other end of the spectrum layering on so many rules and iron-fisted punishments that the child feels they have no sense of reasonable freedom. Let me say I have no children and I'll be the first to say that parenting is a bloody difficult task however in both of these cases the child will be socially stunted and have problems fitting into the broader society. Because we all know there's a bunch of intricacies in grey' moral areas. If a child's parents are to love them and support them but are driven mad by certain things that the child does then there's a low likelihood that anyone else in society will also tolerate that kind of behaviour and if society doesn't tolerate him. It could leave the child feeling isolated and with all kinds of problems basically if you don't like something that your child does neither will society so it's your job as a parent to put an end to it also you need to understand as a parent your own capacity for bad and egregious behaviours and try to introduce your child to the world in appropriately sized doses again I don't have children but this is what the book recommends.
Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world :
How is someone supposed to set themselves in perfect order?. This kind of question misses the entire point. The idea is not that you must live perfectly but that you must be willing to deeply introspect and examine your life and your choices in order to prevent future mistakes. Basically, stop doing things that are objectively bad for you or that you know to be a bad idea, for example, this could be stopping smoking or maybe letting go of a toxic relationship don't rush to judge and blame others for the problems of the world I think this step can be summed up in one quote if every man sweeps his own porch and the whole world would be clean.
Pursue What Is Meaningful, Not What Is Expedient :
President Kennedy put eloquently in 1962 we choose to go to the moon in this decade and do other things not. Because they are easy but because they are hard nobody ever said that life was fair nobody ever said that we were born to live a happy life everyone will endure suffering and if you don't think, you're suffering right now, then you need to know you were in the few of the billions of people who have lived on this planet and suffer and they suffer daily. Anyways I like Jordan's idea that life isn't supposed to be happy it's not supposed to be fair or fun it's supposed to be meaningful that means you will suffer but your suffering should be worth the life that you live in the life you're leaving behind again do what is meaningful not what is fun or easy at the moment.
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